DAY 35: Cause and effect

For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction -Newton's 3rd law of motion.

 

 

We bounce off each other, we bump into each other, we change each others trajectories, no one is getting out of here untouched. Everything we do or say has consequences whether we want to admit it or not, so you should at least try to be kind as often as you can.

 

There is something that has always fascinated me when it comes to human behaviour, and that is how we often struggle to communicate, how we don't always get our points across and how easily conflict can raise its quarrelsome head. Throw emotion in the mix and you are looking for trouble. We become aggressive when we feel misunderstood, but we are not always willing to understand. We want to be heard but we are not always willing to listen. Instead of trying to find the person behind the words, we look for ourselves in them and then instead of calmly responding we react. I think the most important part of any conversation is to listen, remove yourself completely, pretend like you are not really there and the person speaking is a mystery waiting to be solved, and all the clues will be coming out of their mouths, so you better pay attention. The more you open your mouth, the more you might miss something. Shhhh! Listen, just really try and listen, try to hear what is being said and not what you think you are hearing. You may be pleasantly surprised at the stories people are hiding.

 

Our words are more powerful than we think. It can cause wars, and it can end it. It can celebrate love and it can be the tool of hate. It can heal, but it can also destroy. Off all the things that is in our control our words have the most power, so please be careful what you say to others. We may try our best to act tough but we are all quite fragile, we bruise easily, and sometimes because we are so bruised we don't want to listen anymore because we think it is our turn to be heard and before you know it you have reached the point of no return, a complete and utter breakdown of communication, the graveyard of understanding.

 

So what happens when an unstoppable force and an immovable object meet? The only way to get to a conclusion is if one was to compromise, but that by default would go against its very nature. Their unity would reduce one, or the other to less than it was before.  What made them great in the first place was the fact that one was an unstoppable force and the other an immovable object and the only answer to this conundrum, is that perhaps they shouldn't meet.

 

Everything we do or say has an influence...never forget that.